One-third of our waking lives is spent working. During the years we are employed full-time, that equals more than half our waking hours. Hence, what we do for work is critical to our overall quality of life.

Our jobs fulfil many purposes; the money we earn is important, but it is far from the only role work plays in our lives. Work affects our identity, our sense of purpose, our self-esteem, our social status, and the degree to which we can exercise our talents and passions.

A toxic work place, a difficult boss, a stressful job, a job either beyond or below our capacity will all have an enormous effect on our entire lives. The good news about this is there are ever more alternatives for each of us. Where once it was the norm to stay in the same job for an entire career, it is now estimated that millennials will have 20 jobs in their lifetime. It isn’t just more jobs, it is also more careers, with it being possible to completely change areas of expertise not once or twice, but several times over the course of a work lifetime.

Despite all that, losing a job can be devastating, and the period of unemployment between jobs can be long and profoundly undermining. Gender stereotype that it may be, this can be particularly challenging for men, whose self-definition and self-esteem are often vitally connected to their success or failure in the workplace.

When losing a job, it is very tempting to jump at the first next thing that comes along. We strongly encourage you resist this impulse, and to take time to evaluate things carefully. Losing a job can be a tremendous opportunity to re-direct your life path, and make a conscious choice about what you want.

Whether you have lost a job, are unsure about what line of work you want to pursue, or know you need to make a change, but lack direction, we will encourage you not to settle for anything less than “good enough.” In an ideal world, your job is a place where you get paid for doing something you enjoy, among people you respect. Let us help you sort through your feelings, fears, assumptions, and desires to help clarify your direction. Knowing what you want is a great first step toward finding or creating it.